No-Frills Update
I admit it: I've started two other entries between the last one and now, saved them both as drafts in progress, and didn't want to wait until I felt witty enough to finish them before posting again. Having been notified by a couple folks who love me that my blog is the way they keep up with the adventure/comedy known as my life, I wanted to be sure I didn't leave them hanging. This won't be any great shakes, but it oughta get the job done. Here goes:
1) Little Man is [finally] going to sleep in his big boy bed on his own. He's been in it for more than a month (ever since he figured out how to launch himself out of his crib, the tricky little dickens) but until recently, Mister Nygren and I have been taking turns lying down beside him at night until he loses consciousness. Realizing that in a few short months we won't have that luxury, we decided it was time for him to learn to stay in bed just because we said so, and not because he was physically incapable of doing otherwise. Our early attempts were met with nearly an hour of crying and feigning owwies each night to get us to return to his room. After a couple weeks of sticking to our guns, though, it seems to have worked. So for five GLORIOUS days now, he has climbed into bed, said his prayers ("Tanks [something unintelligible] Daddy... tanks [something unintelligible] Baby... amen"), offered hugs and kisses and lay quietly until he's drifted off.
Much rejoicing, albeit slightly softer than daytime volume, was heard throughout the Abbey.
2) I can make my own sauerkraut. Hot damn.
I threw in some gold beets just because I'd seen them at the market and they looked interesting, and they're magical in sauerkraut. My cabbage looked happier just for having them in there. If you like sauerkraut and you've only had the heat-treated kind that comes in a can or jar, you have no earthly idea what you're missing. Email me and I'll hook you up. I just started another batch tonight with apples in it...
3)At this stage of development, my little Sugar Bean has a strong heartbeat, lots of functioning organs, fingerprints, and... no midwife. The only one covered on my insurance won't take me because I'm trying for a VBAC, and the out-of-pocket cost of using one who isn't in-network may prove too great for us. (Ironically, that cost would still be about one-third the price of a hospital birth. Midwives, understandably, need their money before you deliver; a hospital, on the other hand, can just bill you... and bill you... and bill you.) I may just need to wait until my economic-stimulus money comes in from the gubmint to get what I'm looking for... or, I may just need to take this as a sign from God that I should make plans to deliver with an OB. Guess we'll see.
4) Last night was my final show with The Elder Statesmen in its current incarnation; Robert and Mickey (bass player and drummer, respectively) have taken other projects. Darius and Ron (keys and percussion) have been gracious enough not to vote me off the island yet -- maybe because I'm now not just the only female member, but the only pale one as well, and every otherwise-homogenous group needs a Token :) -- so I'm eager to discover what musical relationships and adventures lie ahead.
There's more, but... I'm tired. Much love -- and sweet dreams -- to all.
Reader Comments (7)
I'm a bit surprised on the midwifery. I don't know your current situation, but my suspicions would be as follows:
Out of pocket cost for you with an out of network midwife will be somewhere between 1700-2500 USD. (Sorry for that, but I deal in Euros, Canadian Dollars, and Pesos all day).
Your copay plus deductable with traditional hospital will be at least $1500.
Your husband probably has some kind of retirement plan with Starbucks, which has some type of hardship withdrawl provision. Most hardship withdrawls cover medical bills.
You aren't very far along, so you can probably work out a hell discount with the midwife if you can pay upfront. I got 30% off. Their entire business model is based around out of network births by broke hippies, so nothing makes them happier than cash up front.
So, my suspicion is that your out of pocket total with a midwife utilizing up front payment is probably not really much more than your total out of pocket for a "normal" birth (assuming being hooked up to tubes and a bunch of IVs is normal.)
The trick is to find a creative financing plan which works for you, which I would suppose you can fund through one of a few options, starting with Starbucks. You could also consider Jayhawk or Care Credit, although their rates tend to be too high.
My only cautionary note for you is that VBAC carries its own risks, and if you go for an out of network midwife, then are sent to the hospital in network, your gonna get hammered financially.
That's me, most days it's Orthodox theology, European Beer, and hookahs.
Today it's sauerkraut, multi currency financial consolidation, and VBAC on a budget.
John - trust me when I tell you, I've done the math on this one. (In the case of my son's birth, I'm *still* doing it.) I know you're incredibly knowledgeable when it comes to finances, but I'm a subject matter expert when it comes to mine. :) The birth center you're using gets stellar reviews among my fellow doulas, and their rates are pretty fabulous. I'd be all over it, but for the fact that their referring OB won't let them attempt VBACs.
As for the risks associated with a VBAC: the fact that you mention them in this context tells me it will surprise you to learn that the risks of undesirable outcomes in a VBAC attempt are exponentially greater in the context of a hospital delivery than a birth center or home. Give me another post or two and I'll explain the details.
Meanwhile, thanks for looking out for us, and stay tuned to your email for info about yummy kraut.
I'm not really surprised about the risk rates for VBAC in birthing centers versus hospitals, although I would be surprised to learn that a study was done with enough controls and sample size to draw this conclusion, Hospitals are really terrible places in general, and they have a completely perverted way of looking at life and death. Of course, I'm generally a fan of Western medicine for curing specific diseases, reducing infant mortality, invasive surgery and so on. But there way of operating betrays a way of understanding birth, life, and death, which is inherently unnatural.
May God Bless your coming birthgiving abundantly.
so if you have time... send it over red rover!!
peace!!